Words from a senior "I like it like I do it!"

My mother said these word to me tonight! She had cockscomb in both knees for the second week and her left knee and ankle swelled badly causing her to be at mortal risk for a fall. She is being extremely careful since she has already fallen about two weeks ago and burst her head while I sat in the den. She is constantly on a walker in the house.

I asked her tonight if she wanted me to come home to help her wash her hair and bathe. No! Can I arrange for someone to come and help? WHO? she says.

Every time I approach the issue of someone coming in to assist her the answer is "I like it like I do it!" When she is given options like my brothers house , my house, assisted living or someone to come in and help her it is " no thank you I'll do it my way". She is 87 going on 88 and very cognitively intact. WHAT DO YOU DO??? This is not a glib question! You would think with all my expertise I would know but .................................

Independence is most desired as one ages. Losing it and not having control is the elders greatest fear.